You have waited your whole life to meet that special someone and you finally do. You meet and have a connection, your relationship grows and then finally the proposal. I met my husband in college and had a crush on him for 4 months to the point where I couldn’t think of anything but him. Then finally one day out of the blue he called and asked me out on a date. I was ecstatic and could barely contain my excitement. I couldn’t believe the guy I liked wanted to take me out on a date. We dated for eight months and fell in love. He buried the ring in the sand and asked me to marry him on my favorite beach. I come from a broken family, had a rough childhood, and had to work three jobs to put myself through college so when the man of my dreams is standing in front me asking me of all people to be his wife I just cannot believe it. My dream was coming true but the next day I was overwhelmed with anxiety and fear not because I wasn’t madly in love and my husband to be wasn’t the nicest person in the world but because I had no idea how I was going to pay for a wedding.
Tradition says the brides parents pay for the wedding but gone are those days. Now days like me a lot of couples are left with the expense of their own wedding and have parents that cannot afford for whatever reason to pay for a wedding. It’s one magical day but this one day can cost thousands of dollars so when you are on a budget for your wedding how do you decide what to skimp on and when to splurge.
First, make a list of the three things that are most important to you and three things that are most important to your groom and rate them in order. These are the things you splurge on and spend most of your money on. For example if the venue is number one on both of your lists and food is not, then you can have a wedding at 1pm in the afternoon and just serve dessert. This way you have more money to spend on the venue. This is also true if you have a special pastor or officiant that you want to preside over the ceremony.
Second, you should network. Talk to your friends and family and see if there is family friends that can help with items like flowers and invitations. You might have a friend gifted in graphic design that would be happy to help design you invitations and programs. You never know if you don’t ask
Third, don’t skimp on photography. The wedding day will come and go but you will have the pictures forever. This is the one part of your wedding that will last a lifetime besides the love you have for one another. Make room in the budget to spend on a good photographer and you will not regret it.
Lastly, relax and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Utilize your married friends because they will want to help. People feel honored to be a part of your wedding and contribute to your special day.
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